I am now a 30 year old. Eek! I wanted to write this post before my actual birthday but because I ended up ridiculously busy right before, I had to leave my blog to one side for a couple of weeks, sorry about that.
I know we all say it every single year but I really feel like this year is going by at a stupidly fast pace, it’s officially Autumn which can only mean one thing – my candle collection is coming out. I can’t believe that I am now 30. I had the most amazing birthday and was lucky enough to be celebrating it in the city I’ve always wanted to go to – New York. It was one of the most amazing holiday’s, ever and both my boyfriend and I loved it. A lot of people seem to dread the big 3-0 but I was more excited than anything else.
I wanted to write this post to share how I feel now that I’ve turned 30 and how I’ve changed over the last few years as I feel that I’m a different person to who I was last year, let alone the person I was in my early twenties. I am honestly so excited about being my 30’s – bring on the good times!
1. I am a lot more happy in myself and confident – I’m definitely more of a happy person these days with more confidence than I have had in a long time. I spent most of my twenties feeling really uneasy and unhappy in myself. Although I do try and keep myself to myself and some people may think I’m quiet (I’m not when you get to know me!) I am able to speak out when I need to and more and more I will stand up for myself which I think is a good quality. I’m also more confident in my body and appearance which I haven’t been in years and although I’m not at my target weight yet, I’m getting there.
2. I’ve finally learnt that quality is better than quantity – This was something I started learn a few years ago and it pretty much applies to everything in my life, especially friendships (and chocolate, of course). I have had a number of friends over the years some of which I’ve known for a very long time, but now I’m left with a handful of friends that I keep close to me and class as my best friends and I honestly wouldn’t know what to do without them. None of them are toxic people, they are all lovely and I know would do anything for me which means I am now surrounded by a small group of people who I trust with everything.
3. I know how I like to spend my time – I feel that I know who I am, what I like and how I like to spend my time. Time is precious and my absolute favourite way to spend my time is with the people I love the most – my boyfriend, family and friends. My perfect evening in would be with friends, Gaz or my parents, a DVD and some popcorn to snack on. I’ve never been a huge fan of going to a club or going out-out constantly, but I really enjoy a nice meal out with a few glasses of prosecco, gin or even some delicious cocktails. I also like to give myself a bit of me time which will often happen while my boyfriend plays on Fifa and usually involves having a bath and watching YouTube, Netflix or spending my time writing my blog posts and pinning on Pinterest. Sometimes me time will also be in the kitchen, cooking a nice meal while I watch the iPad. I am so cool, I know.
4. I would rather spend my money on living life than a lipstick – In my early twenties I tended to be a bit more frivolous with my money and spend it on whatever I like whereas towards my late twenties and now, I’m a bit more realistic and don’t like to throw my money away. A lot of people laugh at me but I have a finances spreadsheet and I set aside a certain amount each month for myself and most of that is spent on doing things. I’ve realised that I would rather spend my money on doing things, going out with my friends, organising trips to London, booking theatre and ballet tickets, having a meal out with my boyfriend, visiting my parents etc. I used to want to buy loads of makeup but now I’m not so fussed. How life changes!
5. I’d rather have a quiet life than one filled with drama – Drama, gossiping and bitchiness will always happen but I feel like I spent a lot of my twenties in the middle of one massive drama but thankfully now I am completely out of that. Now that I’m 30 I definitely want more of a quiet, simple and drama free life. I have learnt to walk away from drama and gossiping and have no interest in anyone looking to create drama. Once I learned to let go of the people causing it, a weight was lifted off my shoulders.
6. My fashion sense has changed – Yes, it definitely has. I don’t feel the need to buy an excessive amount of clothes to fill my wardrobe and I would much rather spend a little bit more money and have a few nice pieces I can wear in different combinations. My favourite clothes to wear are my jeans with a nice top or a comfy jumper. I also live in my favourite Doctor Who hoody.
7. Sometimes it’s good to step back, take care of me and relax – I’ve learnt a lot that sometimes life can just get too much and that I need to take some time out for me. Sometimes I find myself exhausted from work or life in general and I hit the point where I know I need to take action – this usually involves a break from social media and just enjoying my time offline a bit more. Sometimes I also get fed up with blogging so I have a bit of a break because I find that if I’m churning out content I’m not really bothered about, no one will want to read it anyway. I know the tell-tale signs to needing a break so I always make sure I have one, whatever that may involve. It’s good to listen to your body and know what’s best for you.
Have you recently hit a big birthday? Do you feel like your life has changed? I’d love to hear.